David Schnarch. · Rating details · 2, ratings · reviews. Passionate Marriage is recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. PASSIONATE MARRIAGE: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed In Passionate Marriage, Dr. David Schnarch organizes fourteen chapters into three . Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships By David Schnarch, Ph. D. Norton, pp. ISBN

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Actually, I want to raise this topic and as I’m doing this with you, I’m also thinking about how I’m complicit.

He shcnarch why and how self-validation wanting your partner but not needing them to validate you is necessary if we want to grow as individuals and couples. Early in his career, Passionate Marriage author David Snarch found it odd that sex therapy and marital therapy were two entirely separate disciplines.

They are worried about “being abandoned. But I must say I am completely intimidated when I contemplate both of them looking at each other, knowing that at some point, one of them will not be there.

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

Come as You Are: It’s not pxssionate that we can come together and do whatever we want in relationships. So just one final question, David.

This first one is just sort of circling back around passionnate completing this discussion, I think, in a very grounded way, which is: Basically you are differentiated if you are having positive outcomes. And by confronting yourself and having the tension within you, the conflict between you and your partner stops.


You know, before there was a human self, nobody had integrity, because there wasn’t any integrity to lose. In the Beginning, GOD: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: This isn’t a “how-to” book on how to have a more passionate marriage.

I love his model of how couple’s can have a great relationship and how it’s starts with cleaning up your own side of the street. So I don’t recommend this lightly or broadly. Secrets of a Passionate Marriage.

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Differentiation is the key marriave a I hesitated putting schnarhc book on my virtual bookshelf because some may find the language and details offensive or too descriptive.

Please try again later. We’re talking about 2, years of civilization. We may act like children but we’re not perpetual children. So first the good.

Solid is, on the one hand, that ability to hang onto a set of core values and not be swayed simply by circumstance. This idea that you don’t fight in front of the kids, you can forget it. Mar marrjage, Sara rated it it was amazing. I’d like to read this book on Kindle Don’t have a Kindle? When I help couples have better sex, most people think at first that [they have to go] to a gym or [get] a trapeze and [do] athletic maneuvers, but the best sex that people ever have really is about finally having peace.

That’s why the approach is not only so powerful but also so successful. This is well within what emotionally committed relationships do.

Passionate Marriage : Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

I get to decide what I don’t want to do, and we do whatever’s leftover. This is not just about sex, but about being brave enough to let our spouses or long-term partners see our genuine selves.


Hopefully, it gets better. That’s one of the beauties of a differentiation-based approach. But it’s still inherently relational because the human self is basically relational, and the human self, mrriage emerged about 1.

Dr. David Schnarch

The language can be frank and graphic and Dr Schnarch includes peeks into the sex lives of his patients that is often just too much. It gets attached to our sex, too. And your partner’s mind and mouth drop open because they can’t believe you’re doing this. We’ll split it between us! Healthy relationships need each partner able to clearly be themselves, fully ‘differentiated.

Your partner can put it to you—and often does—where you really do feel like your integrity is on the line.

I had to confront myself about, was I selling out? I’m going to stick to our agreement but I’m not taking birth control anymore because mmarriage is crazy. I loathe self-help books because they tell me what to do. I recommend this book to anyone who feels frustration in a personal relationship or wrestles with a reoccurring issue. Oct 16, Nate Bagley rated it it was amazing.